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Posted by Kevin - Filed under: Comments & Thoughts
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As I entered the locker room to address my team before a tournament game last weekend, for the second time in as many weeks I was over-powered vocally by a coach from the adjoining locker room screaming and cursing out his team.  Both times myself and my team were basically forced to listen to a curse-laden tirade while we were attempting to get ready for our own games.  One of them even went so far as to kick the exit door open on his way out.  These incidents led me to contemplate a few issues after our own games and evaluate the lessons being taught by these coaches.

1) What lesson is being taught to these kids? One of the only things continually crossing my mind was: “I really wouldn’t want to play his team – if that’s the way he acts and ‘controls’ himself during tense situations, I can only imagine how the children he is coaching will maintain their control.”  Kids are like sponges, they pick up on the smallest things leaders they respect do.  While I can’t say for certain whether or not the players in those locker rooms respected the coaches, I can almost guarantee they are absorbing poor behavioral habits in times of difficulty/stress.  If a coach completely loses his cool when something doesn’t go right, how can he/she expect a player to maintain composure when something happens to them during a game?

2) Why do parents put up with this?  In our area, the cost to play midget hockey is substantial – usually falling in the $2,500 range for non-Tier I (AAA) programs.  With that much money on the line, I don’t see how parents could be willing to put up with actions like these and continue to allow their children to be exposed to this sort of behavior coming from an ‘adult.’

3) What are the long-term effects of this learned behavior?  It is easy to see the short-term effects coaches who are out of control can have on a team, but the long-term effects are much harder to quantify.  Habits, no matter how small, play an enormous role in the long-term development of people. One of the best simple habit examples is the age-old saying: “An apple a day keeps the doctor away.”  Imagine the long-term impact and difference between consistently practicing that habit versus: “A candy bar a day keeps the doctor away!”

Now, don’t get me wrong.  There is a time and place to raise your voice to make a point, but I don’t think there’s a place in our game to degrade and personally attack youth.  I definitely have things I struggle with handling, as I’m sure every coach does.  This is OK – nobody is perfect.  I’m sure there have been instances where I was out of line with my actions.  My simple hope is that you and I, as a coaches, take the time to evaluate our interactions with our teams.  Make sure they’re appropriate.  The kids are watching you.  Coaching is a position of leadership.  Let’s make sure we’re leading them in the right directions – not only in hockey….but in life.


Brandon Says:
February 26th, 2010 a28 12:07pm

Very good write up Kev…i have a team in mind for you to coach!

Timoco Says:
February 26th, 2010 a28 12:21pm

I just wanted to say, this is a very true article. I experienced this first hand also with my sons coach. It was his first year playing at the AAA level here in michigan and his head coach started to swear at the team while on the bench. One game the coach actually grabbed a kids stick after the game and started to smash it against the garbage can inside the locker room, telling his kids they sucked. Needless to say us parents did not accept it and went straight to the head of the association and politely told them that if he is staying they will have to farm a new team. Thankfully they listened and removed him from head coaching of the team.

Kevin Says:
February 26th, 2010 a28 2:48pm

Hi Timco – the 2nd one I encountered was actually in Michigan last weekend (Ann Arbor). The first one was in the Chicago-area. I’m glad to hear you guys took a stand….and your organization listened!

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